A Counterintuitive Approach To Living A Good Life
Manson feels that the media is constantly bombarding people with the message that the key to a successful, happy life is more: more money, more things and then we get into what he calls the Feedback Loop From Hell. We don’t make enough money so we are upset, then we are upset that we are upset about that and then we get anxious and then we are anxious about feeling anxious and the loop goes round.The author feels that the key to a happier life is to be honest about your life. The popular focus on being positive all the time is doing more harm then good. Life sometimes stinks and we need to face this fact and learn to deal with it. The feel good mindset isn’t helping anyone. We need to learn to deal with the bad things that come our way because doing that makes us better. We all have limitations and once we know our limitations and accept them, we can be successful in life. Someone will always make more money than we do, have a nicer car or house or job and we have to let all of that go. Failure is inevitable and we need to accept it and take action. Manson feels that shielding kids from adversity is a huge mistake. If children are constantly shielded from adversity, when it comes, they won’t be able to deal with it. He also feels that giving a child a participation medal, just for showing up, is wrong too. It doesn’t work that way in real life.
- We must know our limitations and accept them.
- Choose what you give a F*ck about.
- Live with some negatives things because we learn from them.
- Accept failure and take action.
- Don’t shield children from adversity because they won’t be able to deal with it when it comes.
- True happiness comes from solving problems
- We are not entitled or special, so get over it.
- Suffering has value and we can learn from it.The language in this book might offend some people but I agree with so many of the points that the author makes. I listened to it on audio and Roger Wayne\’s narration is fantastic.